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The Mother Wound

by Amani Haydar

$34.99

'A magnificent and devastating work of art. There is a raging anger here, and a deep sorrow, but at the core Haydar gives us truths about love. This is one of the most important books I've ever read.' Bri Lee

'I am from a family of strong women.'


Amani Haydar suffered the unimaginable when she lost her mother in a brutal act of domestic violence perpetrated by her father. Five months pregnant at the time, her own perception of how she wanted to mother (and how she had been mothered) was shaped by this devastating murder.

After her mother's death, Amani began reassessing everything she knew of her parents' relationship. They had been unhappy for so long - should she have known that it would end like this? A lawyer by profession, she also saw the holes in the justice system for addressing and combating emotional abuse and coercive control.

Amani also had to reckon with the weight of familial and cultural context. Her parents were brought together in an arranged marriage, her mother thirteen years her father's junior. Her grandmother was brutally killed in the 2006 war in Lebanon, adding complex layers of intergenerational trauma.

Writing with grace and beauty, Amani has drawn from this a story of female resilience and the role of motherhood in the home and in the world. In The Mother Wound, she uses her own strength to help other survivors find their voices.


WINNER OF THE 2021 SYDNEY MUSIC, ARTS & CULTURE (SMAC) AWARDS
WINNER OF THE VICTORIAN PREMIER'S LITERARY AWARD FOR NON-FICTION 2022
WINNER OF THE MATT RICHELL AWARD FOR NEW WRITER OF THE YEAR 2022
SHORTLISTED FOR THE ABIA BIOGRAPHY OF THE YEAR 2022
SHORTLISTED FOR THE NSW PREMIER'S LITERARY AWARDS THE DOUGLAS STEWART PRIZE FOR NON-FICTION 2022
SHORTLISTED FOR THE NSW PREMIER'S LITERARY AWARDS THE MULTICULTURAL NSW AWARD 2022
LONGLISTED FOR THE WALKLEY BOOK AWARD 2021


Praise for The Mother Wound

'Shattering, unforgettable, beautifully told.' - Randa Abdel-Fattah

'Gripping, transcendent, tender and, at times, infuriating. With a daughter's heart and a lawyer's mind, Amani Haydar maps the territory that connects the wars we fight abroad to the wars we endure in our homes.' - Jess Hill

Book Information

  • ISBN: 9781760982454
  • Format: Trade Paperback
  • Pub Date: 29/06/2021
  • Category: Society & social sciences / Domestic violence
    Biography & True Stories / Biography: general
  • Imprint: Macmillan Australia
  • Pages: 352
  • Price: $34.99

'A magnificent and devastating work of art. There is a raging anger here, and a deep sorrow, but at the core Haydar gives us truths about love. This is one of the most important books I've ever read.' Bri Lee

'I am from a family of strong women.'


Amani Haydar suffered the unimaginable when she lost her mother in a brutal act of domestic violence perpetrated by her father. Five months pregnant at the time, her own perception of how she wanted to mother (and how she had been mothered) was shaped by this devastating murder.

After her mother's death, Amani began reassessing everything she knew of her parents' relationship. They had been unhappy for so long - should she have known that it would end like this? A lawyer by profession, she also saw the holes in the justice system for addressing and combating emotional abuse and coercive control.

Amani also had to reckon with the weight of familial and cultural context. Her parents were brought together in an arranged marriage, her mother thirteen years her father's junior. Her grandmother was brutally killed in the 2006 war in Lebanon, adding complex layers of intergenerational trauma.

Writing with grace and beauty, Amani has drawn from this a story of female resilience and the role of motherhood in the home and in the world. In The Mother Wound, she uses her own strength to help other survivors find their voices.


WINNER OF THE 2021 SYDNEY MUSIC, ARTS & CULTURE (SMAC) AWARDS
WINNER OF THE VICTORIAN PREMIER'S LITERARY AWARD FOR NON-FICTION 2022
WINNER OF THE MATT RICHELL AWARD FOR NEW WRITER OF THE YEAR 2022
SHORTLISTED FOR THE ABIA BIOGRAPHY OF THE YEAR 2022
SHORTLISTED FOR THE NSW PREMIER'S LITERARY AWARDS THE DOUGLAS STEWART PRIZE FOR NON-FICTION 2022
SHORTLISTED FOR THE NSW PREMIER'S LITERARY AWARDS THE MULTICULTURAL NSW AWARD 2022
LONGLISTED FOR THE WALKLEY BOOK AWARD 2021


Praise for The Mother Wound

'Shattering, unforgettable, beautifully told.' - Randa Abdel-Fattah

'Gripping, transcendent, tender and, at times, infuriating. With a daughter's heart and a lawyer's mind, Amani Haydar maps the territory that connects the wars we fight abroad to the wars we endure in our homes.' - Jess Hill

Awards

Short-listed for NSW Premier's Literary Awards the Multicultural NSW Award 2022Short-listed for NSW Premier's Literary Awards the Multicultural NSW Award 2022.

Short-listed for NSW Premier's Literary Awards the Douglas Stewart Prize for Non-fiction 2022Short-listed for NSW Premier's Literary Awards the Douglas Stewart Prize for Non-fiction 2022.

Winner for Matt Richell Award for New Writer of the Year 2022Winner for Matt Richell Award for New Writer of the Year 2022.

Short-listed for ABIA Biography of the Year 2022Short-listed for ABIA Biography of the Year 2022.

Winner for Sydney Music, Arts & Culture (SMAC) Awards 2022Winner for Sydney Music, Arts & Culture (SMAC) Awards 2022.

Winner for Victorian Premier's Literary Award for Non-fiction 2022Winner for Victorian Premier's Literary Award for Non-fiction 2022.

Long-listed for Walkley Book Award 2022Long-listed for Walkley Book Award 2022.

Author Information

Amani Haydar is an artist, lawyer, mum and advocate for women's health and safety based in Western Sydney. Amani's writing and illustrations have been published in ABC News Online and SBS Life and her self-portrait Insert Headline Here was a finalist in the 2018 Archibald Prize. Amani uses visual art and writing to explore the personal and political dimensions of abuse, loss, identity and resilience.

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AUTHOR EVENTS

29 June 2022

Amani Haydar suffered the unimaginable in 2015 when she lost her mother in a brutal act of domestic violence perpetrated by her father. Five months pregnant at the time, her own perception of how she wanted to mother (and was mothered) was shaped by this devastating murder. In the aftermath, Amani and her siblings were faced with the loss of both parents - their father, Haydar Haydar, was charged and sentenced to 18 years behind bars. Over the past six years, Amani has re-evaluated her parent's relationship (an arranged marriage) and her childhood, and reckoned with the burden of intergenerational trauma and impact of the passing of her maternal grandmother in Beirut in 2006. She's examined the holes in the justice system for addressing and combating emotional abuse and coercive control and advocates for change. She's raised two beautiful children. Now, in award winning The Mother Wound, Amani writes with power, fury and grace on how we inherit violence and trauma, but also strength, resilience and joy. She writes from the intersection of her experiences as a victim of crime, a lawyer, an Arab-Australian, a woman, daughter and a mother. Poetically combining memoir, social commentary and legal analysis, this is a powerful story of female resilience and motherhood you won't easily forget. Bri Lee began her first day of work at the Queensland District Court as a bright-eyed judge's associate. Two years later she was back as the complainant in her own case. Bri writes about her journey through the Australian legal system; first as the daughter of a policeman, then as a law student, and finally as a judge's associate in both metropolitan and regional Queensland. The injustice Bri witnessed, mourned and raged over every day finally forced her to confront her own personal history, one she'd vowed never to tell. And this is how, after years of struggle, she found herself on the other side of the courtroom, telling her story. These two incredible women are closing out our latest 'Up late' series in conversation. Please join us to witness their discussion on the legal system, privilege, consent, women, creative expression and more. Bring questions of your own for this generous pair!

6:30 PM

Gordon Library
Gordon Library 799 Pacific Hwy Gordon NSW 2072 Website



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